How to Turn a Hook Up Into a Relationship
I want a casual hookup, not a relationship – how do I say that on Tinder?
12 Nov Swipe Right is our advice column that tackles the tricky world of online dating. This week: how to find a semi-regular hookup – and avoid scary messages. 30 Oct Go from Casual To Committed. Here's what to do when you're in limbo with a guy you're more than friends with but less than a girlfriend to. 21 Jan It's Monday and you have a coffee date with Steve. Tuesday arrives, and it's time to have lunch with Paul. On Wednesday, you're hooking up with Ryan. Thursday rolls around and you're having a “sleepover” with Alex. Friday comes and you meet a new guy at the bar. You're texting him all weekend long.
Friday comes and you meet a new guy at the bar. You're texting him all weekend long. Weigh the good and bad. There are pros and cons to both: Flirting and texting is not the same as dating.
And neither is drunkenly hooking up on the weekends. Figure out where you stand. You can generally figure out where the relationship is heading or ending by the way you treat each other. More clearly put, does he only text you late at night?
Does he improve my life? There's a fine line between playing a little hard to get and acting totally indifferent. Think beyond dinner and after-drinks for your next date. Do I feel respected?
Have you still not met his friends? If you don't know, just ask! Do you have a super busy schedule? Did you just go through a messy breakup?
Read between the lines.
If so, you might not be ready for the real thing. If you can barely make time to meet a guy for drinks, how do you expect to commit to a serious relationship? If you can imagine yourself bringing him to family functions and are ready to do fun couple-y things with him like staying in on a Saturday night and ordering take-outgo get it girl!
This will freak the guy out and jeopardize the future of your relationship. You can't put pressure on it. If it's supposed to turn into the real thing, it will. Just have fun and see what happens! Some casual flings are meant to be that and only that, but others have the potential to be more.
But if he gets along with your friends and acts interested in you and not just your bodyhe may be a potential suitor. Erica Avesian is a successful young professional in the marketing industry. In her current role, she plans and executes high-end events and marketing projects for a variety of luxury and automotive clients.
When she's not writing, you can find her styling outfits for her best friends, traveling with her family, and hanging out at her happy place, Starbucks. Erica is obsessed with fashion magazines, Disney, and the color pink.
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